My Philosophy
"There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own soul… One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious." – Carl G. Jung
Before I became a psychotherapist, I thought I understood life.
I believed we were in control — choosing our partners, our careers, our paths — all directed by conscious choice. I believed our futures were ours to command… until my own journey revealed something far more powerful than willpower.
There is another force at work — one that moves quietly beneath the surface of every decision we make.
The unconscious mind.
In the intricate tapestry of our lives, our futures, choices, and decisions are often steered by this unseen force, operating far beyond our conscious awareness. It shapes our loves, our losses, our fears… without us even realising. I’ve felt it in my own life — moments when I thought I was choosing freely, only to realise I was following an invisible script written long ago.
Carl Jung understood this world. He called it the shadow — the parts of ourselves we hide, bury, or refuse to admit are ours. Not because we’re bad, but because we’ve been taught, they’re unacceptable. But they don’t disappear. They live on, quietly shaping our lives, until we find the courage to meet them.
"We cannot change anything unless we accept it." – Jung
Entering the Rooms, We Hide
"There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own soul… One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious." – Carl G. Jung
Before I became a psychotherapist, I thought I understood life.
I believed we were in control — choosing our partners, our careers, our paths — all directed by conscious choice. I believed our futures were ours to command… until my own journey revealed something far more powerful than willpower.
There is another force at work — one that moves quietly beneath the surface of every decision we make.
The unconscious mind.
In the intricate tapestry of our lives, our futures, choices, and decisions are often steered by this unseen force, operating far beyond our conscious awareness. It shapes our loves, our losses, our fears… without us even realising. I’ve felt it in my own life — moments when I thought I was choosing freely, only to realise I was following an invisible script written long ago.
Carl Jung understood this world. He called it the shadow — the parts of ourselves we hide, bury, or refuse to admit are ours. Not because we’re bad, but because we’ve been taught, they’re unacceptable. But they don’t disappear. They live on, quietly shaping our lives, until we find the courage to meet them.
"We cannot change anything unless we accept it." – Jung
The Real Work
Therapy, for me, is about that meeting — not just talking about what you already know, but stepping into the hidden rooms inside you.
It’s where the real work happens.
Where patterns break.
Where you finally understand why you keep ending up in the same place, with the same feeling, no matter how hard you try to think your way out.
When you go there — when you see yourself in full, both the light and the dark — something shifts. It’s not about fixing yourself. It’s about coming home to yourself.
Beneath the clothes, beyond the smile, behind closed doors — we are all ruled by the same desires. Some are raw, some are dark, some are laced with shame. We are never entirely who we say we are. Hidden underneath, there is always a secret part of us.
You are here to be whole. The self that no longer seeks permission or approval. The self that simply is. This embodiment is the kind if authenticity that cannot be manipulated by anyone. It is true power.
When you find it… that is freedom.
Integration, not erasure: invite the exiled parts in — not to lead, but to be seen — and become whole.
Open the locked chest. Inside are the feelings you were forbidden to feel: anger, desire, resentment, arrogance, selfishness. Your inner judge exiled them and stamped them “dangerous”. Here’s the paradox: until you integrate what you’ve rejected, you remain fragmented — a healer with an untreated wound, a giver who secretly resents giving, a lover who cannot feel love. You cannot transcend what you refuse to touch. Open the chest without shame. Anger is sacred fire that marks your boundary. Selfishness is the compass that points you back to your needs. Arrogance is the distorted memory that you mattered. Wholeness asks you to invite these shadowed parts into your temple — not to rule, but to be seen, heard, and understood. To transcend yourself is to include the fragments you once cast out.